What is the most heartbreaking thing your child has told you?
07.06.2025 18:41
When our daughter got hired at the same job she put my wife’s name down as a reference. My wife got a $300 referral bonus because of it. They were mad that she didn’t give one of their names instead. My daughter said “mom has always taken care of me, she has gone out of her way to help me every possible way, she deserves the bonus!” They thought they deserved it because they were giving our daughter a ride to work, she only lived down the street from them. Our daughter reminded them that she let them stay at her place for nearly six months at one point for free so she didn’t owe them anything. They lived in our basement for over a year for free as well. Neither of us asked for anything from them, we didn’t ask for help with bills, rent or anything. If anyone deserved the bonus it was my wife.
His girlfriend (snake in the grass, the devil incarnate) has always made a huge deal about her stepdad dying of cancer. She made sure they named their son after him. My wife gets cancer and she doesn’t matter at all. When he told us we were toxic we asked if his nieces and nephew were toxic too, he couldn’t answer that. When I asked why we were so toxic but yet why her mom isn’t considered toxic he said she’s changed. Even her boyfriend who has a wrap sheet a mile long has supposedly changed. People like that don’t change. I’ve never been to jail in my entire life, not once but yet somehow I’m not worthy of being in my grandson’s life. Of course their baby got her last name. When we asked our son whose name the baby got he said his girlfriend’s last name. He said “She said we had to give the baby her last name because we’re not married. She said I wasn’t allowed to sign the birth certificate because we’re not married!” She has pulled the wool over his eyes so much, he’s oblivious. She made damned sure their baby doesn’t have our last name and she made sure our son didn’t sign the birth certificate so he doesn’t have any rights to custody if they separate.
They didn’t see it that way though, she has no empathy, she isn’t capable of seeing other people’s perspective. The fact that we all have helped them far more than they ever did any of us doesn’t register or even matter to her. She started telling our son that we are toxic people and before we knew it he stopped talking to us. She ended up getting pregnant (I wouldn’t be shocked if it’s not even his honestly) and we were all still working together but in different departments. Eventually she went on maternity leave. As soon as she was on leave our son started talking to us again. Everyone at work had believed his girlfriend when she would tell them that we were the problem. As soon as people started seeing that our son would talk to us once she was gone it was obvious who the problem was.
Most of them would sleep while she drove. One day my son’s girlfriend told everyone that my wife was texting while she was driving and she talked someone into telling on her even though she was the one who claimed to have seen her do it. My wife won’t even text and drive in her own vehicle, there’s no way she would’ve done that in a company vehicle where she was responsible for everyone in the van. My wife was so upset about being accused of that she ended up leaving, she quit on the spot. She was already angry about something else and that pushed her too far. Our son and his girlfriend were trying to justify it and everything got blown out of proportion. We ended up telling them they had to go, they had to move out of the basement.
The girl got rid of his friends, she got rid of his family, she has isolated him completely. She isolated him so slowly he didn’t realize she had done it. We started noticing that he had stopped talking to his oldest friends a while ago. We know most of them if not all of them. Even his best friend who he’d known since he was ten years old. When we asked why he stopped talking to him he gave us a really vague explanation. What I took from it is his girlfriend didn’t approve. Our sons best friend jokes a lot and well our sons girlfriend doesn’t know how to take a joke, she’s always so serious. Our son has dropped every single one of us. All three of his sisters got dropped, he doesn’t have anything to do with his nieces and nephew, our other grandchildren. He doesn’t have anything to do with his brother who has always looked up to him. When our middle daughter who he always claimed as his bestie had her baby he didn’t care at all. When my wife told him she had breast cancer he acted concerned at first but then said “you’ll be okay!”
Texting and driving is an automatic fire, basically they tried to get her fired, she tried to get her fired but she tried to make someone else the bad guy. They moved into her mom’s house and within a few months they called us and apologized. They were saying that her mom and stepdad were awful people and were treating them like trash. I believe it because I’ve met them, they are awful people. We made up, we all ended up getting another job together, me included. Everything was good at first. The issue is that her family is very dysfunctional. Her mother is abusive and she has no love for her children. Even though we’re somewhat dysfunctional at times we love each other and it shows. I believe that’s why she hates us so much.
She had the baby and they didn’t have anyone who could babysit while she worked so she ended up quitting the job. After the baby was born we asked our son to see a picture, he reluctantly agreed. We asked him when we would be able to meet our grandson and he said “I’m sorry, I don’t think that’s a good idea! You’re never going to meet him!” That was one of the most heartbreaking things I’ve ever been told by anyone. The next time we asked him to see a picture he told us no, he didn’t want to show us a picture again. It was obvious to us that he told her he showed us a picture and she flipped out about it. Of course he was telling us it was his decision but we’re not stupid.
Honestly what truly started everything, even before the thing with my wife supposedly texting and driving was my youngest daughter told us some things about her sister. My daughter was seven, her sister was twelve. She was saying things no twelve year old should say, much less to a seven year old. Basically she admitted to inappropriate behavior with several teenage boys and supposedly even adults in her neighborhood. We were very concerned so we told our son’s girlfriend what her little sister said. Rather than doing anything about it her and her mother said we were lying, our daughter was lying and her little sister wouldn’t do that. Everything went down hill from there.
This one is hard to answer because it brings tears to my eyes just thinking about it. My oldest son has a child with a woman who has torn our family apart. When they were first together they lived in our basement. At the time they worked with my wife. Our son was actually her boss. Our daughter also worked with them. She always seemed to resent us for some reason we never understood until recently. My wife used to drive a work van when they all worked together. They all rode with her, she was one of the only drivers.
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One evening she came to pick up our son from work and I saw people in the parking lot standing around the car looking at the baby. When she saw me pull in she shut the door quickly so I couldn’t get a peek at him. Her mother is allowed to see him, even though she has told her daughter that she doesn’t love her because of who her father is. Even though she punched her little sister in the face and laughed about it. Even though she moved a man she didn’t know into her house just a month after her husband died. The man has a wrap sheet a mile long with charges that include sexual assault. They are worthy of being in my grandchild’s life but we aren’t. I’m just waiting for the day for my son to wake the fuck up and see what everyone else sees.
We weren’t the best parents in the world but we were both better than our parents. Most of our kids friends call us mom and dad. My oldest daughter is 23 years old and some of her friends still call me dad. We’ve had multiple of their friends tell us that we are the best parents they know. More than one of them has told us that we were the first people to ever take them in vacation. Two of them told us they had never been to the beach before until we took them. At least three of them told us they had never been to a theme park until we took them yet we’re horrible toxic evil people who aren’t worthy of even looking at our grandson for a second. I’m just waiting for the day when our son actually wakes up and realizes that it’s her family who is toxic and he has made a huge mistake by allowing her to make all his decisions for him. I’m just hoping it’s not too late by the time he figures it out. There’s no such thing as a perfect parent. At least we know how we failed and will admit it. Most people aren’t capable of that. Being told I’m never going to see my grandson was the most heartbreaking thing one of my children has ever told me. We’re going to sue them for grandparents rights if that doesn’t change in the next few years. At the moment we just don’t want to make things worse.
About a year after we all started the new job together our son’s girlfriend started acting really weird towards us. My wife needed a ride home one night and she asked them for a ride. Our house was basically on the way, maybe a couple extra minutes. They flat out told her no. If it was one of her sisters she would drive to the end of the earth to give them a ride. If it is one of us she wouldn’t drive us ten feet. Our son lets her run him and make all his decisions. She is so manipulative it’s sad. She always acts really sweet to everyone but in reality she’s a monster. She’s a covert narcissist, I have no doubt.